Tuesday, April 29, 2014

The near-LSD experience

I was standing in the toilet of the library filling my water bottle. It was the end of a working day and I was lost in thought. Then I brought awareness as I now do habitually. I saw how kind of bored I was standing there, looking at the water hitting the inside of my plastic bottle. Everything around me looked boring. I was longing for something interesting, anything, for example something like this:

Photo Diedier Van de Steene (Belgium)
 
 
I brought awareness to my boredom, to the whole experience of standing there and then BAM, it happened, I was 'behind the waterfall' of my thoughts. My thoughts were not in the way of direct experience. The veil had fallen for a while. I looked at the water and saw how incredible it was. How unbelievably beautiful. How abstract the world was, with me in it and that water. It was like a Raveel painting (I am pretty sure the painter Raveel was at least partly enlightened). The water kept it's diamond-like preciousness even when I walked away from the tap. In the bottle it seemed to me the most precious thing on earth. And then I also understood. I understood that water IS the most precious thing on earth, more valuable then the most expensive jewel. It was a very deep understanding that went beyond economic reasoning. I was deeply moved, deeply impressed, deeply grateful and deeply happy in a non-passionate way, I understood deeply too. I saw millions of little moments blend into the water bottle filling experience as a whole, like frames of a film. I saw reality rearranging itself to be seen through my eyes.  It was very significant. A near LSD-experience. In the desert. Where water is scarce. This all lasted perhaps for about 15 seconds, but it felt as if a day had past.
 
 
 
 
 


Sunday, April 27, 2014

Marc Epstein combines Freud with Buddha in The Trauma of Everyday Life


Trauma does not just happen to a few unlucky people; it is the bedrock of our psychology. Death and illness touch us all, but even the everyday sufferings of loneliness and fear are traumatic. In The Trauma of Everyday Life renowned psychiatrist and author of Thoughts Without a Thinker Mark Epstein uncovers the transformational potential of trauma, revealing how it can be used for the mind’s own development.
Western psychology teaches that if we understand the cause of trauma, we might move past it while many drawn to Eastern practices see meditation as a means of rising above, or distancing themselves from, their most difficult emotions. Both, Epstein argues, fail to recognize that trauma is an indivisible part of life and can be used as a lever for growth and an ever deeper understanding of change. When we regard trauma with this perspective, understanding that suffering is universal and without logic, our pain connects us to the world on a more fundamental level. The way out of pain is through it.
Epstein’s discovery begins in his analysis of the life of Buddha, looking to how the death of his mother informed his path and teachings. The Buddha’s spiritual journey can be read as an expression of primitive agony grounded in childhood trauma. Yet the Buddha’s story is only one of many in The Trauma of Everyday Life. Here, Epstein looks to his own experience, that of his patients, and of the many fellow sojourners and teachers he encounters as a psychiatrist and Buddhist. They are alike only in that they share in trauma, large and small, as all of us do. Epstein finds throughout that trauma, if it doesn’t destroy us, wakes us up to both our minds’ own capacity and to the suffering of others. It makes us more human, caring, and wise. It can be our greatest teacher, our freedom itself, and it is available to all of us.


Mark Epstein, M.D. is a psychiatrist in private practice in New York City and the author of a number of books about the interface of Buddhism and psychotherapy, including Thoughts without a Thinker, Going to Pieces without Falling Apart, Going on Being, Open to Desire and Psychotherapy without the Self. His newest work, The Trauma of Everyday Life, will be published in August of 2013 by Penguin Press. He received his undergraduate and medical degrees from Harvard University and is currently Clinical Assistant Professor in the Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University.

http://markepsteinmd.com/

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My beautiful, sweet fierce teacher: Ayya Upekkha




Single Female Angry Meditator. Being tested: fierce anger

I am at the moment intensely angry.
I think my anger is just and necessary. Besides, my anger does not care what I think, my anger is not my choice, it is just there. Bam!
I am angry with someone who hates Jews and denies the Holocaust. This person is very near me at the moment.
I am surprised that people around me seem to think that a mediator does not get angry. Or is not supposed to get angry.
As if we are soft woozes sitting on a cushion all day.
I just heard the Daila Llama declare that he too gets angry and that he does not believe people when they say they don't.
Voila, I agree, as usual, with the Daila Llama. He is such a pet! Cheerful and cheeky, honest and fair. I would not mind him as my husband at all. Or Steven Hawkins. Alas! I am just a Single Female Angry Meditator.
I am leaning into my anger, bringing it into awareness as much as I can, and oh boy, it hurts. My whole body breaks out in a sweat it is that painful. But I do not deny my anger. I am feeling it. Full blast. That is awareness.
I try to be not reactive, but responsive.
Being responsive is like fighting with a sharp ax.
Being reactive is like fighting with water.
My ax is sharp.
I might win the war.
I might not.
I am not against war.
Some wars were just.
Like the war against the Nazi's.
With a sharp ax I will try to remove this person from my life.
Cheers!
A Meditating Warrior







Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Mudita: sympathetic joy: मुदिता

 

A helpful Buddhist concept is Mudita or sympathetic joy. It is closely connected to Metta (loving-kindness). It is an exercise in feeling joyful when others achieve something that brings them happiness. I am going to talk about Mudita tonight (if anybody turns up, Alice Springers are strange in that respect) as a part of the ten week Metta focus.
It is ingrained in people to feel a pang of jealousy when the Other has luck or achieves something. Our first split second reaction is to feel a little of envy and spite that not we but them are the lucky, fortunate one on the receiving side. The more sophisticated we are the sooner we can suppress this little hairy devil Monkey Mind.
It is easy to find joy in the achievements of close ones, ones children for example, but to feel the same joy for a complete stranger is more complicated. However, just as Metta is a skill and not an inborn quality or talent, so is Modita. At first it will feel a bit forced and fake to practice Modita, but it will settle itself as a habit in the mind soon after the first practice and it is, just as Metta, extremely beneficial for the practitioner as well as for the receiver. The doublesided ax of Metta and Modita sharpens the mind and soon after the beginning of the practice we will notice subtle changes in ourselves and the way others react to us.


The Brahma Vihara Organization has the following on their website:

Mudita strengthens the capacity to experience joy and happiness. It is likened to a flower at full bloom. It is the ability to appreciate something as it is blooming and releasing the fragrance of its happiness, without falling over the edge into a sceptical sardonic reaction such as "What is the point? It will only last for a moment." The practice of mudita lifts the heart out of its preoccupation with insufficiency. As a result, the buoyant energies of gratitude and generosity begin to restore the human spirit.
The near enemy of mudita is exuberance. Exuberance is an overly excited, even manic state. It is the sense of deprivation grasping at moments of joy.
The far enemy of mudita is resentment. Mudita is the medicine for the poisons of jealousy, envy and derision. Mudita heals the cruel urge to suppress happiness. With the cultivation of mudita we tap a reservoir of joy by sharing times of happiness and good fortune.
Mudita is exemplified in the mother-child connection when the child begins to express its own creative nature. Mudita is the ability to join and support this expanding spirit. The Buddha taught that one of our challenges is to cultivate mudita even in a world full of misery.
http://www.brahmaviharas.org/mudita.htm

bringing awareness to relationships with Others


My students focus on Metta and Dukkha these ten weeks. I have been doing so since November. What did I find out? That there is a small ball of fear motoring away in my lower body, it probably started during adolescence. What to do about it? No idea yet. Bring more awareness to it until I hit a good idea. Unpack the problem bit by bit. I think it has to do with relationships so:
I am now ready to move onto another subject of focus. Bringing awareness to the relationship with the Other it is going to be. It is one thing to bring present moment awareness to oneself when one is alone (which I am a lot), or when one is sitting in meditation (which I am a lot), or in a counselling situation (which I love), bringing minute to minute awareness to interaction with Others is an entire other ball game.
I tend to lose myself in the Other. This is not difficult; the Other is immensely fascinating to me. Thus today the experiment will start. I have already noticed that I completely lost awareness when I was waiting for someone who had promised me an appointment but did not deliver. I was irritated and full of judgement. I had to deal with innocent receptionists and I treated them badly. Voila, the first chance was missed gloriously.
Now I am in the library, surrounded by European tourists who treat the library as a cafe. They have loud Skype conversations, have long chats and play music on their computers. I find them completely rude, stupid even. There is no way in the world I can get over myself (or them) and I am in a very bad mood.
I know a guy who is like that on a full time basis, like me at the moment; he finds fault in others, especially when it comes to following the rules. He even has a blog that is dedicated to the faults of others. He painstakingly points out mistakes in newspapers and magazines, in politicians and other leaders... It is the most boring blog I have ever laid eyes on. And I am like that at the moment. Someone rescue me from the noisy Europeans and most of all: from myself.


Okay, I try to "bring space to the moment" as Eckhard Tolle calls it. I have completely forgotten what that is supposed to mean. I end up yelping to the self-confident boys and girls: "This is a library, people are trying to work here." I remember myself at that age. I was exactly the same. Arrogant and a knowitall.
It worked! My angry words. They are silent in a high-school-class-sudden-silence kinda way. They try to get away with whispering and look at me every five seconds or so. 
I bring awareness to this and suddenly have a laugh. 
What an assholes, all of us, them and I.
 I think I need to read this book:


And here is the boring blokes blog: (it's in Dutch, sorry, but you'll get the idea by just looking at it.)
http://vanwelzen.blogspot.com.au/
Sleep well all! Zzzzzzzzzz




Thursday, April 17, 2014

Loving-kindness revisited

Yesterday I had a student. One. That's enough. We had a beautiful hour exploring ways into flow. Our subject was loving-kindness as a counter-weight to hatred. Especially self-hatred. When we have traces of self-hatred we have traces of hatred for others. The bigger our self-hatred, the bigger our hatred for others. They go hand in hand inseparable, like some spooky Siamese set of twins.


Self-hatred and Hatred

Thus we have send ourselves loving-kindness before we can send it to others. We must accept ourselves exactly as we are in that moment. Only then we accept others. This was deeply understood by my student. 
Deep understanding in students is marvelous because it feeds my own understanding. To be together in the beautiful, sacred space of the yoga studio for an hour spending our time on the contemplation of loving-kindness is a privilege. It is time well spent. It filled us both with wonder and we were grateful. 

The champion speaker on loving-kindness was Ayya Khema. In her precise German accented English she said for example this:

Loving-Kindness Meditation - Best Friend

A guided meditation by Ven. Ayya Khema

Please put the attention on the breath for just a few moments.
Think of yourself as your own best friend; the one you can rely on to help you, to make you happy, to know what is best for you, who loves you. Feel yourself embraced by that friendship.
Think of yourself as the best friend of the person sitting nearest you in this room. Fill him / her with your helpfulness, your care, your concern, be at that person's disposal. Fill him / her with the sincerity of your friendship and embrace him / her with your love.
Embrace everyone who is present with your friendship and love. Fill everyone with your wish to help, your care and concern for their well-being. Feel that friendship and let it flow into each person's heart.
Think of yourself as the best friend of your parents, whether they're still alive or not. Fill them with the sincerity of your friendship, your gratitude, your wish to help, your care and concern. Embrace them with your love.
Be the best friend of those who are nearest and dearest to you. Be at their disposal to help and to support. Fill them with your friendship. Surround them with your love.
Let all your good friends arise before your mind's eye. Be their best friend. Fill them with your friendship, with your sincerity, your gratitude that you have them as your friends, your care and concern for them. Embrace them with your love.
Let all the people who are part of your daily life arise before your mind's eye. People at work, neighbours, acquaintances, relatives, salespeople, the postman, those you meet on the street, or on your travels. Be their best friend, caring and concerned, willing to help. Fill them from head to toe with your friendship. Surround and embrace them with your love.
Think of any one person, whom you may not like very much, have difficulties with or towards whom you feel totally indifferent. Be a best friend for that person also, taking him or her into your heart, making no separations between people. Fill him or her with your friendship. Surround him or her with your love.
Now open your heart as wide as you can and let friendship and love flow out of it to people near and far, first to those who may be in these buildings, then to the people in the houses around here and then to people in the whole town. Just let it flow. Let the wind of your breath carry friendship and love, togetherness, care and concern to as many people as possible, knowing that only then we can live together harmoniously. Go to towns further afield, small, medium and large, wherever people can be found. Let your own love and friendship roam as far afield as the strength of your heart and the strength of your friendship will reach, so that you can touch the hearts of others.
Now put your attention back on yourself and recognize the beauty and the harmony of friendship and love, and fill yourself with friendship for yourself. Embrace yourself with love, feeling clear and protected and at ease.
May all beings be friends with each other.

a young Ayya Khema



Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Dukkha



The Pali word Dukkha is a very subtle word with many shades of meaning.
Dukkha refers to the realm of the material world we dwell in most of the time and to how all things in that world are a bit unsatisfying. Everything changes all the time; things get old, get lost, break, stop working... even our bodies are subject to these inescapable flaws.
Things (people, animals, plants) getting old, getting lost, breaking, stop working... cause us depression and grief, stress, and irritation. This is called Dukkha.

As the Buddha points out there is a way out of Dukkha.
Too get away from Dukkha is the number one goal of meditation.








The realm of non-suffering*

I've been listening to Eckhart Tolle's lessons for teachers. The frustrating thing with Tolle is that he says great things, but also embarrassingly stupid things, unscientific things. He even talks of astrology in the teachers series. Go away Tolle! Astrology! Give us a break, will ye? The teachers series is not exactly helpful. Sometimes Tolle is downright crazy with his long silent gazes and little laughs...
But there is a student who asks a great question:
"Why do we have to do all these exercises when you (and many) other teachers woke up because of something completely different."
In Tolle's case he woke up because he suffered so much that he could not live with himself anymore. He then saw that the 'I" and the "myself" he could not live with anymore where not the same thing. A split occurred and bang! his suffering ended.

What I find frustrating about Tolle too is that he cannot explain how to get to where he is dwelling most of the time: in the realm of non-suffering.

This is not only the problem with Tolle, it is the problem with many teachers of enlightenment.

Enlightenment is not difficult. Enlightenment is very near. Nearer then you think. You can step out of suffering quite easily. The realm you're looking for is right there at the surface of things.

I understood this when in the monastery.

I float in and out that realm now. The more I have been there the easier it gets. When I'm in it I experience the world as "flow". When I'm out of it I am following my thoughts, I am lost in thoughts, I am identified with Form. The flow-existence is definitely better. Its' vastness makes my body produce pangs of fear though. I try to observe these pangs. And at the same time observe the observer who is aware of these pangs. That is how I keep myself in the realm of flow. It is a good way to overcome boredom, for example while waiting in line in the bank.





* Suffering is not a good translation of the Pali word Dukkha. Dukkha refers to all things being slightly to moderately to very unsatisfying. We do not have such a word in English.






the 5 Skandha's (aggregates) of attachment

    A bit of Buddhist theory:
       
      Form
      Sensation
      Perception
      Mental Formation
      Consciousness

      They are called aggregates as they work together to produce a mental being. As Heart Sutra says, Avalokitesvara Bodhisattva illuminates and sees the emptiness of the Five Skandhas.
      Impermanence is one of the characteristics of emptiness. and the aggregates are also governed by the principle of impermanence. Therefore each of the aggregates is undergoing constant changes. Aggregates are not static things; they are dynamic processes.
      By understanding the Five Skandhas, we attain the wisdom of not-self. The world we experience is not constructed upon and around the idea of a self, but through the impersonal processes. By getting rid of the idea of self, we can look at happiness and suffering, praise and blame, and all the rest with equanimity. In this way, we will be no longer subject to the imbalance of alternating hope and fear.

      Form (Rupa)
      The aggregate of form corresponds to what we would call material or physical factors. It includes our own bodies, and material objects as well. Specifically, the aggregate of form includes the five physical organs (eye, ear, nose, tongue, body), and the corresponding physical objects of the sense organs (sight, sound, smell, taste and tangible objects).
      Sensation (Vedana)
      The aggregate of sensation or feeling is of three kinds - pleasant, unpleasant and indifferent. When an object is experienced, that experience takes on one of these emotional tones, the tone of pleasure, the tone of displeasure, or the tone of indifference.
      Perception
      The function of perception is to turn an indefinite experience into a definite, recognized and identified experience. It is the formulation of a conception of an idea about a particular object of experience.
      Mental Formation
      The aggregate of mental formation may be described as a conditioned response to the object of experience. It is not just the impression created by previous actions (the habitual energy stored up from countless former lives), but also the responses here and now motivated and directed in a particular way.
      In short, mental formation or volition has a moral dimension; perception has a conceptual dimension; feeling has an emotional dimension.
      Consciousness
      Both the eye and the visible object are the physical elements, therefore they are not enough to produce experience by themselves. Only the co-presence of consciousness together with the eye and the visible object produces experience. Similarly, ear, nose, tongue and body are the same. Consciousness is therefore an indispensable element in the product of experience. Consciousness is mere awareness, or sensitivity to an object. When the physical factors of experience, e.g. the eyes and visible objects come in contact, and when consciousness also becomes associated with the physical factors of experience, visual consciousness arises. It is not just the personal experience. The way that our personal experience is produced is through the functioning of the three major mental factors of experience, i.e. the aggregate of perception and mental formation.


Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Anatta: Non-Self

Probably the most important "thing" in meditation and it's ultimate goal is insight in the fact that there is no Self.
You cannot slowly gain this insight; you see it or you don't see it.
If you have seen it once it is not sure you will hold on to the insight. But the more you have experienced it, the easier it becomes to recall and to reproduce the experience.
It is a bit like the following picture:



What do you see first? The old lady? Then the illusion of Self is like the old lady.
If you see the young lady first then the illusion of self is like the young lady.

The experience of non-self is as nearby as the picture you first do not see in the drawing above.

It is not a matter of going deep within.

It is right there, on the surface, clear as anything.

Once the illusion of Self is gone we see things as they really are, not filtered by our conceptual views.

The experience of Non-Self is an experience that all great spiritual thinkers have mentioned. From the Buddha to Christ, from Eckhart Tolle to Byron Kathy...

Once experienced it can never be forgotten.

The best way to quickly experience it is to take your own consciousness as the subject of observation. Ask yourself What Am I. Am I my body? The answer will be no. Am I my thoughts? The answer will also be no. Then What/Where am I? Try to find yourself as the person who is aware of this process of thinking and you will find consciousness, but you won't find an "I".

In Buddhism Non-Self is called Anatta.
The Buddha says we are all but 5 aggregates.
Of the 5 aggregates later...




 

Monday, April 14, 2014

Silence as an export product

Nobody turned up yesterday at my meditation session. Alice Springs is only marginally ready for meditation and mindfulness.  I did not mind, I sat there in the beautiful silence of the studio for a while, waiting, listening. I had planned to focus on listening with my students. I had some bells with me and some old paper to grumble and tear up.
As soon as we are listening we are not thinking. Listening immediately silences the zoo that is our mind. Thus I was first listening to the outer universe around me, the sounds of the industrial estate of Alice Springs on a Monday around 6. It was amazing what a complex of sounds were present, from birds to heavy machinery in the distance. Then I listened to the silence in the studio for a while. Then I focused my attention on the inner universe of sounds; my own breathing and all other sounds that the body produces when it sits. I could even hear my blood pumping behind my ears.
I did this for ten minutes or so and noticed how refreshed I felt while riding my bike home. The sun was setting, the town was producing it's buzz. The silence from the desert was crowding in... Alice Springs should export silence. There's nothing like the silence of the desert. If only we could can it and send it too noisy places.


Sunday, April 13, 2014

Sam Harris interviews Dan Harris about Taming the Mind


the interview beneath has been copied and pasted form Sam Harris's website: www.samharris.org

Dan Harris is a co-anchor of Nightline and the weekend edition of Good Morning America on ABC News. He has reported from all over the world, covering wars in Afghanistan, Israel/Palestine, and Iraq, and producing investigative reports in Haiti, Cambodia, and the Congo. He has also spent many years covering religion in America, despite the fact that he is agnostic.
Dan’s new book, 10 Percent Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works—A True Story, hit #1 on the New York Times best-seller list.
Dan was kind enough to discuss the practice of meditation with me for this page.


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Sam: One thing I love about your book—admittedly, somewhat selfishly—is that it’s exactly the book I would want people to read before Waking Up comes out in the fall. You approach the topic of meditation with serious skepticism—which, as you know, is an attitude that my readers share to an unusual degree. Perhaps you can say something about this. How did you view the practice in the beginning?
Dan: I was incredibly skeptical about meditation. I thought it was for people who lived in yurts or collected crystals or had too many Cat Stevens records. And I was bred for this kind of doubt. My parents are both physicians and scientists at academic hospitals in the Boston area, and my wife is also a scientist and a physician. I was raised in a very secular environment. I had a Bar Mitzvah, but that was mostly because I wanted the money and the social acceptance. My parents were also recovering hippies who made me go to a yoga class when I was a little kid. The teacher didn’t like the jeans I was wearing, so she forced me to take them off and do Sun Salutations in my tighty-whities in front of all the other kids.
Sam: Rarely has the connection between yoga and child abuse been illustrated so clearly.
Dan: No doubt. And the result was that not only was I skeptical about anything bordering on the metaphysical, which I assumed meditation involved, but I had a long-standing aversion to anything touchy-feely or New Agey. Meditation seemed like the quintessence of everything I was most wary of.
Sam: For those who are unfamiliar with meditation—in particular, the practice of mindfulness that we are discussing—I have described it in a previous article on my blog and also posted some guided meditations that many people have found helpful. But, in essence, we are talking about the practice of paying very careful, non-judgmental attention to the contents of consciousness in the present moment. Usually one begins by focusing on the sensation of breathing, but eventually the practice opens to include the full field of experience—other sensations in the body, sounds, emotions, even thoughts themselves. The trick, however, is not to spend one’s time lost in thought.
How did you get started practicing mindfulness, and what was your first experience like?
Dan: Well, the thing that got me to open my mind just a crack was hearing about the science. I think that’s true for a lot of people who have given it a try of late. You hear about the science that says it can do some pretty extraordinary things to your brain and your body: lowering your blood pressure, boosting your immune system, thickening the gray matter in parts of the brain that have to do with self-awareness and compassion, and decreasing the gray matter in the areas associated with stress. That’s all really compelling. I work out because I want to take care of my health, and meditation seemed like it could fall in the same bucket. But my first taste of it was miserable. I set an alarm for five minutes and had a full-on collision with the zoo that is my mind. It was really hard.
Sam: People who haven’t tried to meditate have very little sense that their minds are noisy at all. And when you tell them that they’re thinking every second of the day, it generally doesn’t mean anything to them. It certainly doesn’t strike most of them as pathological. When these people try to meditate, they have one of two reactions: Some are so restless and besieged by doubts that they can hardly attempt the exercise. “What am I doing sitting here with my eyes closed? What is the point of paying attention to the breath?” And, strangely, their resistance isn’t remotely interesting to them. They come away, after only a few minutes, thinking that the act of paying close attention to their experience is pointless.
But then there are the people who have an epiphany similar to yours, where the unpleasant realization that their minds are lurching all over the place becomes a goad to further inquiry. Their inability to pay sustained attention—to anything—becomes interesting to them. And they recognize it as pathological, despite the fact that almost everyone is in the same condition.
Dan: I love your description. Interestingly enough, the door had opened for me before I tried meditation, in the most unexpected way. One of my assignments at ABC News had been to cover basic spirituality. So I had picked up a book by a self-help guru by the name of Eckhart Tolle, who has sold millions of books and is beloved by Oprah. I had read his book not because I thought it would be personally useful to me but because I was considering doing a story on him. Nestled within all his grandiloquent writing and pseudoscientific claims—and just overall weirdness—was a diagnosis of the human condition, which you just articulated quite well, that kind of blew my mind.
It’s this thunderous truism: We all know on some level that we are thinking all the time, that we have this voice in our heads, and the nature of this voice is mostly negative. It’s also repetitive and ceaselessly self-referential. We walk around in this fog of memory about the past and anticipation of a future that may or may not arrive in the form in which we imagine it. This observation seemed to describe me. I realized that the things I’d done in my life that I was most ashamed of had been as a result of having thoughts, impulses, urges, and emotions that I didn’t have the wherewithal to resist. So when I sat down and had that first confrontation with the voice in my head, I knew from having read Eckhart Tolle that it wasn’t going to be pretty, and I was motivated to do something about it.
Sam: Why didn’t you just become a student of Tolle’s?
Dan: I think that Eckhart Tolle is correct, but not useful. I’m stealing that distinction from the meditation teacher Sharon Salzburg. I think his diagnosis is correct, but he doesn’t give you anything to do about it, at least that I could ascertain. He has sold millions of books about “spiritual awakening.” If he were truly useful, we should have a reasonable population of awakened people walking around, and I’m just not seeing them. I found Tolle to be both extraordinarily interesting and extraordinarily frustrating. The lack of any concrete advice was really the source of my frustration, alongside the aforementioned weirdness. I think Tolle deserves credit for articulating a truth of the human condition extremely well. But I also think that it’s a legitimate criticism to say he doesn’t give you anything to do about it.
Sam: It’s interesting that you mention Tolle, because when someone asks me for the two-second summary of my new book, I’m often tempted to say, “It’s Eckhart Tolle for smart people”—that is, people who suspect that something important can be discovered about consciousness through introspection, but who are allergic to the pseudoscience and irrationality that generally creeps into every New Age discussion of this truth. I haven’t read much of Tolle, but I suspect that I largely agree with his view of the subjective insights that come once we recognize the nature of consciousness prior to thought. The self that we all think we have riding around inside our heads is an illusion—and one that can disappear when examined closely. What’s more, we’re much better off psychologically when it does. But from the little reading I’ve done of Tolle, I can see that he also makes some embarrassing claims about the nature of the cosmos—claims that are unjustified both scientifically and philosophically.
However, in the man’s defense, this lack of usefulness you mention is not unique to him. It’s hard to talk about the illusoriness of the self or the non-dual nature of consciousness in a way that makes sense to people.
Dan: You know, I’ve read a little bit about non-duality, but I still don’t fully understand the distinction you’re making. I know you’re supposed to be interviewing me, but I would love to hear more about this from you. I’ve wanted to ask you this question for a long time. What is the non-dual critique of gradual approaches like mindfulness?
Sam: I think the best way to communicate this is by analogy. Everyone has had the experience of looking through a window and suddenly catching sight of his own reflection staring back at him from the glass. At that point, he can use the glass as a window, to see the world outside, or as a mirror, but he can’t do both at the same time.
Sometimes your reflection in the glass is pretty subtle, and you could easily stand there for ten minutes, looking outside while staring right through the image of your own face without seeing it.
For the purposes of this analogy, imagine that the goal of meditation is to see your own reflection clearly in each moment. Most spiritual traditions don’t realize that this can be done directly, and they articulate their paths of practice in ways that suggest that if you only paid more attention to everything beyond the glass—trees, sky, traffic—eventually your face would come into view. Looking out the window is arguably better than closing your eyes or leaving the room entirely—at least you are facing in the right direction—but the practice is based on a fundamental misunderstanding. You don’t realize that you are looking through the very thing you are trying to find in every moment. Given better information, you could just walk up to the window and see your face in the first instant.
The same is true for the illusoriness of the self. Consciousness is already free of the feeling that we call “I.” However, a person must change his plane of focus to realize this. Some practices can facilitate this shift in awareness, but there is no truly gradual path that leads there. Many longtime meditators seem completely unaware that these two planes of focus exist, and they spend their lives looking out the window, as it were. I used to be one of them. I’d stay on retreat for a few weeks or months at a time, being mindful of the breath and other sense objects, thinking that if I just got closer to the raw data of experience, a breakthrough would occur. Occasionally, a breakthrough did occur: In a moment of seeing, for instance, there would be pure seeing, and consciousness would appear momentarily free of any feeling to which the notion of a “self” could be attached. But then the experience would fade, and I couldn’t get back there at will. There was nothing to do but return to meditating dualistically on contents of consciousness, with self-transcendence as a distant goal.
However, from the non-dual side, ordinary consciousness—the very awareness that you and I are experiencing in this conversation—is already free of self. And this can be pointed out directly, and recognized again and again, as one’s only form of practice. So gradual approaches are, almost by definition, misleading. And yet this is where everyone starts.
In criticizing this kind of practice, someone like Eckhart Tolle is echoing the non-dualistic teachings one finds in traditions such as Advaita Vedanta, Zen (sometimes), and Dzogchen. Many of these teachings can sound paradoxical: You can’t get there from here. The self that you think you are isn’t going to meditate itself into a new condition. This is true, but as Sharon says, it’s not always useful. The path is too steep.
Of course, this non-dual teaching, too, can be misleading—because even after one recognizes the intrinsic selflessness of consciousness, one still has to practice that recognition. So there is a point to meditation after all—but it isn’t a goal-oriented one. In each moment of real meditation, the self is already transcended.
Dan: So should I stop doing my mindfulness meditation?
Sam: Not at all. Though I think you could be well served if you ever had the opportunity to study the Tibetan Buddhist practice of Dzogchen.
Dan: Joseph Goldstein, who’s a friend to both of us, recently put out this supplement to daily practice where he says, “Listen to all the sounds that arise in your consciousness and then try to find who or what is hearing them.” I find that when I do that, I’m directed into a space completely different from the one I arrive at when I’m sitting there watching my breath. I’m wondering if that is the kind of shift in attention you’re talking about. Is that what you would recommend as a way to bridge the gap you’ve just described?
Sam: Yes. Looking for the mind, or the thinker, or the one who is looking, is often taught as a preliminary exercise in Dzogchen, and it gets your attention pointed in the right direction. It’s different from focusing on the sensation of breathing. You’re simply turning attention upon itself—and this can provoke the insight I’m talking about. It’s possible to look for the one who is looking and to find, conclusively, that no one is there to be found.
People who have done a lot of meditation practice, who know what it’s like to concentrate deeply on an object like the breath, often develop a misconception that the truth is somewhere deep within. But non-duality is not deep. It’s right on the surface. This is another way the window analogy works well: Your reflection is not far away. You just need to know where to look for it. It’s not a matter of going deeper and deeper into subtlety until your face finally reveals itself. It is literally right before your eyes in every moment. When you turn attention upon itself and look for the thinker of your thoughts, the absence of any center to consciousness can be glimpsed immediately. It can’t be found by going deeper. To go deep—into the breath or any other phenomenon you can notice—is to start looking out the window at the trees.
The trick is to become sensitive to what consciousness is like the instant you try to turn it upon itself. In that first instant, there’s a gap between thoughts that can grow wider and become more salient. The more it opens, the more you can notice the character of consciousness prior to thought. This is true whether it’s ordinary consciousness—you standing bleary-eyed in line at Starbucks—or you’re in the middle of a three-month retreat and your body feels like it’s made of light. It simply doesn’t matter what the contents of consciousness are. The self is an illusion in any case.
It’s also useful to do this practice with your eyes open, because vision seems to anchor the feeling of subject/object duality more than any other sense. Most of us feel quite strongly that we are behind our eyes, looking out at a world that is over there. But the truth—subjectively speaking; I’m not making a claim about physics—is that everything is just appearing in consciousness. Losing the sense of subject/object duality with your eyes open can be the most vivid way to experience this shift in perception. That’s why Dzogchen practitioners tend to meditate with their eyes open.
Dan: So I would look at something and ask myself who is seeing it?
Sam: Yes—but it’s not a matter of verbally asking yourself the question. The crucial gesture is to attempt to turn attention upon itself and notice what changes in that first instant. Again, it’s not a matter of going deep within. You don’t have to work up to this thing. It’s a matter of looking for the looker and in that first moment noticing what consciousness is like. Once you notice that it is wide open and unencumbered by the feeling of self, that very insight becomes the basis of your mindfulness.
Dan: The way you describe it, it’s a practice. I get it. Tolle and the other non-dual thinkers I’ve heard talk aren’t telling us what to do. You’re actually giving me something clear and easy to understand. I think you could use that as a complement to and perhaps even a replacement for the mindfulness practice that stabilizes your attention and helps you recognize that you have an inner life worth focusing on in the first place.
Sam: That’s right. Mindfulness is necessary for any form of meditation. So there’s no contradiction. But there remains something paradoxical about non-dual teachings, because the thing you’re glimpsing is already true of consciousness. Consciousness is already without the sense of self.
Most people feel that the self is real and that they’re going to somehow unravel it—or, if it’s an illusion, it is one that requires a protracted process of meditation to dispel. One gets the sense in every dualistic approach that there’s nothing to notice in the beginning but the evidence of one’s own unenlightenment. Your mind is a mess that must be cleaned up. You’re at the base of the mountain, and there’s nothing to do but schlep to the top.
The non-dual truth is that consciousness is already free of this thing we think we have in our heads—the ego, the thinker of thoughts, the grumpy homunculus. And the intrinsic selflessness of consciousness can be recognized, right now, before you make any effort to be free of the self through goal-oriented practice. Once you have recognized the way consciousness already is, there is still practice to do, but it’s not the same as just logging your miles of mindfulness on the breath or any other object of perception.
Dan: I appreciate what you’re saying, but it seems to present a communication challenge or PR problem. I think most people will buy the basic argument for mindfulness. We all know that we eat when we’re not hungry, check our email when we’re supposed to be listening to our kids, or lose our temper, and then we regret these things later. We all know that we’re yanked around by our emotions. So most people will readily see the value of having more self-awareness so that they can have more—for lack of a better term—emotional intelligence. However, I don’t know that it will be readily apparent to most people why it would be desirable to see the self as an illusion. I don’t even know that most people have considered the nature of the self at all, because I certainly hadn’t. So to ask them to take the further step of considering whether it is an illusion—that requires a lot of work to even wrap your head around. That seems to me to be one of the big issues for non-dualists.
Sam: I agree. It’s a more esoteric concern, almost by definition—but it’s a more fundamental one as well. It’s the distinction between teaching mindfulness in a clinical or self-help context—whether to the Marines, to enhance their performance, or as a form of stress reduction in a hospital or a psychotherapy practice—and going on silent retreat for months in the hope of recapitulating the insights of a great contemplative like the Buddha. Some people really want to get to the root of the problem. But most just want to feel better and achieve more in their lives. There’s nothing wrong with that—until one realizes that there is something wrong with it. The wolf never quite leaves the door.
Ultimately, no matter how much you improve your game, you still have a problem that seems to be structured around this feeling you call “I”—which, strangely, is not quite identical to this body of yours that is growing older and less reliable by the hour. You still feel that you are this always-ready-to-be-miserable center of consciousness that is perpetually driven to do things in the hope of feeling better.
And if you’re practicing mindfulness or some other form of meditation as a remedy for this discomfort, you are bound to approach it in the same dilemma-based way that you approach everything else in life. You’re out of shape, so you go to the gym. You feel a little run down, so you go to the doctor. You didn’t get enough sleep, so you drink an extra cup of coffee. We’re constantly bailing water in this way. Mindfulness becomes a very useful tool to help yourself feel better, but it isn’t fundamentally different from any of these other strategies when we use it that way.
For instance, many of us hate to be late and find ourselves rushing at various points in the day. This is a common pattern for me: I get uptight about being late, and I can feel the cortisol just dump into my bloodstream. It’s possible to practice mindfulness as a kind of remedy for this problem—to notice the feeling of stress dispassionately, and to disengage from one’s thoughts about it—but it is very hard to escape the sense that one is using mindfulness as an antidote and trying to meditate the unpleasant feelings away. Technically, it’s not true mindfulness at that point, but even when one is really balanced with one’s attention, there is still the feeling that one is patiently contemplating one’s own neurosis. It is another thing entirely to recognize that there is no self at the center of this storm in the first place.
The illusoriness of the self is potentially of great interest to everyone, because this false construct really is our most basic problem in every moment. But there is no question that this truth is harder to communicate than the benefits of simply being more self-aware, less reactive, more concentrated, and so forth.
Dan: This is exactly why my book is a great prologue to yours.
Sam: Absolutely. And you’ve written a book that I could never have written. I became interested in meditation relatively early in life. I was a skeptical person, but I was only 19, so I didn’t have all the reasons you had to be skeptical when you first approached the practice. Nor did I have a career, so I wasn’t coming from the same fascinating context in which you recognized that something was wrong with your approach to life. I think your book will be incredibly useful to people.
Can you say something about what it was like to go on retreat for the first time? What sort of resistance did you have? And what was it like to punch through it?
Dan: I blame the entire experience on you. It was largely your idea, and you got me into the retreat—which, to my surprise, was hard to get into. I had no idea that so many people wanted to sign up for ten days of no talking, vegetarian food, and 12 hours a day of meditation, which sounded like a perfect description of one of the inner circles of Dante’s Inferno to me.
As you can gather from the previous sentences, I did not look forward to the experience at all. However, I knew as a budding meditator that this was the next step to take. When we met backstage at the debate you and Michael Shermer did with Deepak Chopra and Jean Houston, which I moderated for Nightline, I realized for the first time that you were a meditator. You recommended that I go on this retreat, and it was almost as if I’d received a dare from a cool kid I admired. I felt like I really needed to do this. It was as horrible as I’d thought it would be for a couple of days. On day four or five I thought I might quit, but then I had a breakthrough.
Sam: Describe that breakthrough. What shifted?
Dan: As I say in the book, it felt as if I had been dragged by my head by a motorboat for a few days, and then, all of the sudden, I got up on water skis. When you’re hauled kicking and screaming into the present moment, you arrive at an experience of the mind that is, at least for me, totally new. I could see very clearly the ferocious rapidity of the mind—how fast we’re hearing, seeing, smelling, feeling, wanting—and that this is our life. We are on the receiving end of this fire hose of mental noise. That glimpse ushered in the happiest 36 hours of my life. But, as the Buddha liked to point out, nothing lasts—and that did not last.
Sam: It’s amazing to realize for the first time that your life doesn’t get any better than your mind is: You might have wonderful friends, perfect health, a great career, and everything else you want, and you can still be miserable. The converse is also true: There are people who basically have nothing—who live in circumstances that you and I would do more or less anything to avoid—who are happier than we tend to be because of the character of their minds. Unfortunately, one glimpse of this truth is never enough. We have to be continually reminded of it.
Dan: This reminds me of the Buddhist concept of suffering. The term “suffering” has certain connotations in English and, as you know, it’s a poor translation of the original Pali term dukkha. The Buddhist concept describes the truth of our existence, which is that nothing is ever ultimately satisfying.
As you said, you can have great friends and live pretty high on the socioeconomic ladder—your life can be a long string of pleasurable meals, vacations, and encounters with books and interesting people—and, yes, you can still have what Eckhart Tolle describes as a background static of perpetual discontent. This is why we see rock stars with drug problems and lottery winners who kill themselves. There is something very powerful about that realization.
Sam: And this is why training the mind through meditation makes sense—because it’s the most direct way to influence the mechanics of your own experience. To remain unaware of this machinery—in particular, the automaticity of thought—is to simply be propelled by it into one situation after another in which you struggle to find lasting fulfillment amid conditions that can’t provide it.
Dan: What’s interesting is that so many people reflexively reject this—just as I would have five or six years ago—because of their misconceptions about meditation. I think there are two reasons why people don’t meditate. Either they think it’s complete baloney that involves wearing robes, lighting incense, and subscribing to some useless metaphysical program, or they accept the fact that it might be good for them, but they assume that they couldn’t do it because their minds are too busy. I refer to this second reason as “the fallacy of uniqueness.” If you think that your mind is somehow busier than everyone else’s—welcome to the human condition. Everyone’s mind is busy. Meditation is hard for everybody.
Sam: The first source of resistance you mentioned is especially prevalent among smart, skeptical people. And I’m a little worried that the way in which many of us respond to this doubt ultimately sells the whole enterprise short. For instance, consider the comparison people often make between meditation and physical exercise—in fact, you drew this analogy already. At first glance, it’s a good one, because nothing looks more ridiculous on its face than what most of us do for exercise. Take the practice of lifting weights: If you try to explain weightlifting to someone who has no understanding of fitness, the wisdom of repeatedly picking up heavy objects and putting them down again is very difficult to get across. And until you’ve actually succeeded at building some muscle, it feels wrong too. So it is easy to see why a naïve person would say, “Why on earth would I want to waste my time and energy doing that?” Of course, most people understand that lifting weights is one of the best things they can do if they want to retain muscle mass, protect their joints from injury, feel better, etc. It’s also extraordinarily satisfying, once a person gets into it.
Meditation presents a similar impasse at first. Everyone asks, “Why would I want to pay attention to my breath?” It seems like a shameful waste of time. So the analogy to exercise is inviting and probably useful, but it doesn’t quite get at what is so revolutionary about finally paying attention to the character of one’s own mental life in this way.

Truly learning to meditate is not like going to the gym and putting on some muscle because it’s good for you and makes you feel better. There’s more to it than that. Meditation—again, done correctly—puts into question more or less everything you tend to do in your search for happiness. But if you lose sight of this, it can become just another strategy for seeking happiness—a more refined version of the problem you already have.
Dan: I’m guilty of using the exercise analogy repeatedly. My feeling—and I think you’d agree with this—is that the analogy is good enough to get people in the door. It may be misleading, but I don’t think in a harmful way. Obviously, when done correctly, meditation is much more transformative than ordinary exercise, but you need to meet people where they are. I think that mindfulness, and potentially even non-duality, has the potential to become the next public health revolution, or the spirituality of the future. In order for that to happen, you need to communicate with people in a way that they can understand. Not to keep wailing on Eckhart Tolle, but part of my problem with him is that I just don’t know that anybody actually understands what he’s saying, despite the fact that he has sold millions of books.
Sam: This raises the question of how to evaluate the results of a spiritual practice—and whether those results, however transformative they may be for someone, can be credible to others.
What constitutes evidence that there is a path to wisdom at all? From the outside, it’s very difficult to judge—because there are charismatic charlatans who are probably lying about everything, and there are seemingly ordinary people who have had quite profound experiences. From the inside, however, the evidence is clear; so each person has to run the experiment in the laboratory of his own mind to know that there’s anything to this.
The truth is that most of us are bound to appear like ordinary schmucks to others no matter how much we meditate. If you’re lost in thought, as you will be most of the time, you become the mere puppet of whatever those thoughts are. If you’re lost in worries about the future, you will seem to be an ordinary, anxious person—and the fact that you might be punctuating this experience with moments of mindfulness or moments of non-duality isn’t necessarily going to change the way you appear in the world. But internally, the difference can be huge. This gap between first-person and third-person data is a real impediment to communicating the significance of meditation practice to people who haven’t experienced it.
Dan: I agree, although, as we’ve already mentioned, there are some external manifestations that one can measure—changes in the brain, lowered blood pressure, boosted immune function, lowered cortisol, and so forth. People find these things compelling, and once they get in the door, they can experience the practice from the inside.
I would also say—and perhaps you were just getting into this—it’s hard to gauge whether some spiritual teachers are telling the truth. I’ve been privileged to meet many of these people, and I just go by my gut sense of whether they’re full of crap or not.
I have to say that with Eckhart Tolle, I did not get that feeling. I got the sense that he is for real. I don’t understand a lot of what he’s saying, but I didn’t feel that he was lying to himself or to me. Obviously this isn’t really data, but I found it personally convincing. To what end, I don’t know.
Sam: As distinct, say, from our friend with the rhinestone glasses…
Dan: Correct. I think I say in the book that I had no questions about whether Tolle was authentic, although I had many questions about whether he was sane. It was the reverse with Deepak Chopra.
Sam: Now I find myself in the unusual position of rising to Deepak’s defense—I think this happens once a decade, when the planets align just so. As I was saying before, a person like Deepak could have authentic and life-transforming experiences in meditation that nevertheless failed to smooth out the quirks in his personality. If he spends most of his time lost in thought, it will not be obvious to us that he enjoys those moments of real freedom. We will inevitably judge him by the silly things he says and the arrogance with which he says them.
But I’ve learned, as a result of my humbling encounters with my own mind, to charitably discount everyone else’s psychopathology. So if a spiritual teacher flies into a rage or even does something starkly unethical, that is not, from my point of view, proof that he or she is a total fraud. It’s just evidence that he or she is spending some significant amount of time lost in thought. But that’s to be expected of anybody who’s not “fully enlightened,” if such a rarefied state is even possible. I’m not saying that every guru is worth listening to—I think most aren’t, and some are genuinely dangerous. But many talented contemplatives can appear quite ordinary. And, unfortunately, cutting through the illusion of the self doesn’t guarantee that you won’t say something stupid at the next opportunity.
Dan: I fully agree with you. I enjoy picking on Deepak, but the truth is that I like the guy.

Sam: Let’s leave it there, Dan. It was great speaking with you, and I wish you continued success with your book.
Dan: Many thanks, Sam.

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Saturday, April 12, 2014

Hoarding and compulsive buying 2


In their book Stuff, Compulsive hoarding and the meaning of things Randy Frost and Gail Steketee dig into the behavior and thinking patterns of people who hoard (things, animals, food).
The book is published in 2010 in the USA. I am surprised that meditation and/or mindfulness is not mentioned once as one of the solutions to this overwhelmingly problem in a world where there is too much; too much food, too many pets, too much stuff. And too many people who cannot resist the impulse to acquire them. A hoarder lives in nearly every block in the USA. With all the implications this brings for the health and safety of many. In its’ description of the phenomena the book is haunting, especially there where hoarders describe that they would be nothing without their stuff. What a good starting point for meditation!
In monasteries all over the world people work hard to break their ego. Our Western societies, and lately also the Eastern world, is seeing a strong ego (a strong sense of personality, strong opinions, strong pride in the Self. . .) as an asset. This is not surprising as our societies are built on the assumption that is healthy to compete in a capitalist system. Since the collapse of almost all corrupt communist societies and the fading of democrat-socialist societies the capitalist system is all that is left, leaving many people to assume that it is the only good system. Those who doubt this system often end up in monasteries, where teachers begin to break down their ego. Serving with humility, bowing, and hard work (without pay) are instruments to break the ego. Only when the ego gets weaker the path to enlightenment can begin.

There are many people with a weak ego in our communities. Society looks upon this as a bad thing. In fact not having a very strong ego is a good thing. If you take up spiritual growth your weaknesses suddenly become assets.
Mothers and housewives ( who are used to hard work, lots of bending over and being unselfish are seen as ‘nobodies’ by society), and hoarders (who are 'nobody' without their stuff) are all on the right track. Because becoming a 'nobody' is the goal of meditation. Beyond the dense personality that is needed in society, for example to hold a job, and which belongs to the world of form, lays the stillness and fastness of the nobody, the realm of no-form. It is extremely refreshing to dwell in the realm of no-form for periods of time, it is even better to live there on a permanent basis.
the Buddha called this non-self. i will get back to non-self soon, somewhere this week if I can.




Wednesday, April 9, 2014

ariyo aṭṭhaṅgiko maggo





The Four Noble Truths (see previous entry) in Buddhism lead to the Eight Fold Path ariyo aṭṭhaṅgiko maggo to liberation (enlightenment).
In order to walk on the Eight Fold Path we need some basic qualitites:

Wisdom paññā
Ethical conduct sīla
Concentration samādhi

These qualities lead to:

1) Right view
2) Right intention
3) Right speech
4) Right action
5) Right livelihood
6) Right effort
7) Right mindfulness
8) Right concentration

and finally to Superior Right Knowledgeand Superior Right Liberation.

Again this is more a matter of shedding then of aquiring.
On the path to Right Speech for example we need to shed lying and using bad language.






Dukkha

The Four Noble Truths are at the basis of Buddhist belief.
All four truths have to do with suffering; dukkha





Truth 1 simply states that there is suffering

  • The dukkha of ordinary suffering (dukkha-dukkha) - the obvious physical and mental suffering associated with birth, growing old, illness and dying.
  • The dukkha produced by change (vipariṇāma-dukkha) - the anxiety or stress of trying to hold onto things that are constantly changing.
  • The dukkha of conditioned states (saṃkhāra-dukkha) - a basic unsatisfactoriness pervading all forms of existence, due to the fact that all forms of life are changing, impermanent and without any inner core or substance. On this level, the term indicates a lack of satisfaction, a sense that things never measure up to our expectations or standards.

  • Truth 2 states that craving is the cause of suffering

  • Craving for sense-pleasures (kama-tanha): this is craving for sense objects which provide pleasant feeling, or craving for sensory pleasures.
  • Craving to be (bhava-tanha): this is craving to be something, to unite with an experience. This includes craving to be solid and ongoing, to be a being that has a past and a future,  and craving to prevail and dominate over others.
  • Craving not to be (vibhava-tanha): this is craving to not experience the world, and to be nothing; a wish to be separated from painful feelings.

  • Truth 3 states that suffering can be ended

  • Craving for sense-pleasures (kama-tanha): this is craving for sense objects which provide pleasant feeling, or craving for sensory pleasures.
  • Craving to be (bhava-tanha): this is craving to be something, to unite with an experience. This includes craving to be solid and ongoing, to be a being that has a past and a future,  and craving to prevail and dominate over others.
  • Craving not to be (vibhava-tanha): this is craving to not experience the world, and to be nothing; a wish to be separated from painful feelings.

  • Truth 4 states that there is a way (path) out of suffering: the Eight Fold Path

    The fourth noble truth is the path to the cessation of dukkha. This path is called the Noble Eightfold Path, and it is considered to be the essence of Buddhist practice. The eightfold path consists of: Right Understanding, Right Thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, and Right Concentration.
    While the first three truths are primarily concerned with understanding the nature of dukkha (suffering, anxiety, stress) and its causes, the fourth truth presents a practical method for overcoming dukkha. The path consists of a set of eight interconnected factors or conditions, that when developed together, lead to the cessation of dukkha. Ajahn Sucitto describes the path as "a mandala of interconnected factors that support and moderate each other."
    Thus, the eight items of the path are not to be understood as stages, in which each stage is completed before moving on to the next. Rather, they are to be understood as eight significant dimensions of one's behaviour—mental, spoken, and bodily—that operate in dependence on one another; taken together, they define a complete path, or way of living.




    Hoarding and Compulsive Buying.

    I do not know one person who is aware and present and hoards and clutters at the same time. It's like smoking. You cannot do it when you are aware and present.
    All meditators I know are extremely well organized persons who have few possessions (counts for me too).


     My favorite nun: Ayya Khema

     Ayya Khema's room
     

    Both smoking, and hoarding & excessive cluttering are listed under Compulsive Disorders in the DSM. This led me to think that hoarding is a kind of addiction, that is, something goes wrong in the reward system of the brain. The same counts for compulsive buying (of things you do not need). There's a high involved in all of these behaviors; the high of acquiring, and owning. Just like the tobacco high or the heroine high coming down from it is quite painful and leads to the next high.
    Only a deep level of awareness can heal the hoarder, who is often quite powerless in the face of her/his own behavior.
    Often there is an identification with stuff in order to feel safe.
    Only the deep realisation that we can feel safe in the face of great unsafety (the realisation that we all die alone) can heal the hoarder. Truth seeking through insight meditation (Vippassana) is helpful to reach this realisation.

    Typical hoarder's room